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What Do You Need To Change To Be More Successful?

WHAT I DO: I help credit union executives, small business owners and entrepreneurs achieve professional growth, career advancement, increased earnings and work-life balancer by providing a customized developmental process based upon their unique needs.

WHO I WORK WITH: I partner with executives, business owners and senior-level managers including:

• Credit Unions
• CPA firms
• Auto Repair
• Publishing
• Hospital CEO’s.
• Chambers of Commerce
• Non-profits

WHY IT WORKS: When you partner with me, you get the most efficient, effective and affordable executive coaching and strategic planning processes that leaders like you are looking for right now.

WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT? I have run a business and faced many of the challenges you now face. I was for 29 years a credit union CEO, and prior to that in in consumer finance. I am a Vietnam Vet. My knowledge has been acquired over a long haul. I do not offer cookie-cutter solutions. In fact, I do not even suggest a solution until I understand you, your organization and your needs. No prescriptions without a diagnosis.

HOW IT WORKS: We begin by talking by telephone about your organization, your vision, and what does success look like. I start with a blank page and simply listen. I request 30-minutes initially, and then schedule a follow-up call to share what I feel is the best solution for you.

READY TO TALK? Reach out to me here on LinkedIn, e-mail me at tom@kesgroupllc.com, visit online at www.kesgroupllc.com or call me direct at 941-650-9027.
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Become More of Who You Are

Greatest barrier to Success is Fear of Failure

Thomas Merton's idea that the best we can do is to be the best version of ourselves—in all our imperfect glory.  Here is one of my favorite quotes by him: "Finally I am coming to the conclusion that my highest ambition is to be what I already am. That I will never fulfill my obligation to surpass myself unless I first accept myself, and if I accept myself fully in the right way, I will already have surpassed myself."

What I like about growing older is that I increasingly do not care what other people think, and I have less need to prove whom I am.

I often think about some of the early, limiting influences that shaped my path, when I allowed them to. And what I mean by this is consider the frequently heard sayings in your family. They were well meaning when preached to you, however, the result was that they often could and did dampen your desires, enthusiasm and motivation. Sayings like, “There’s no money in that!”, “That’s awfully risky.”, “We are counting on you to….”, and “You’re probably going to fail…and then what?!”

Your family and friends believe they’re providing guidance and preventing you from making bad decisions, but we take their opinions, give them life and fail to achieve things we’re passionate about.

I find when I begin working with prospective clients in my coaching practice that they are often unclear about their purpose and passion, and they go through life feeling disconnected. They question their ability to reach their future goals. They’re allowing themselves to be guided by others as opposed to being self-guided. They often don’t feel any personal reward in the roles they’re playing.

Being compared to your parents can be positive…or not. Many of the traits you have weren’t inherited. You learned them through conditioning, or spaced repetition, by seeing your parent’s attitudes, beliefs and behaviors. We are products of our past conditioning. That is, if we choose to be.

The effects of our early conditioning will surface in our adult lives. While we’re deciding what we want to do, our early conditioning tries to sway us towards what we think we should do. It takes a conscious effort on our part to be aware of these limiting factors. If we choose to continue listening to unconstructive input, fear and reluctance to see where our future lies consumes us.

Confident people have a keen understanding of their roles in life, and they are socially well adjusted and strong enough to play the roles of their desires. My clients often report that, after our work together, they receive personal achievement from their newly crafted roles and see the roles they’re in as well suited for them. Those are pretty good indicators that they’ve found a balance between their work and personal roles and have moved past their early conditioning.

You are one-of-a-kind with a lot of unique value to contribute. You’ve already had quite a journey to get to where you are right now and have much more good to come into and out of your life. Take responsibility for the rest of your life. As you do, you will realize that the power and influence you want will come to you. You get to choose to accept or reject the values you were exposed to in your early conditioning.

Success is the continual achievement of your own, predetermined goals. You are responsible for your own success.

Probes: These may be used by the reader to start a dialogue in your organization.

  • What is it that you are passionate about?
  • How does your current occupation fulfill your needs?
  • Is that where you want to spend the rest of your career?
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Monday, 17 December 2018

Testimonial

“As a Senior Executive in the Credit Union industry - I have personally experienced along with my staff - what Tom brings to the table as a Coach. Tom is uniquely qualified from his experiences as CEO and President of a Credit Union and brings not only that experience but has a special way of identifying unique qualities that we all have but sometimes have not fully realized and utilized in the work place and in our personal lives. Tom delivers in such a way that exhibits high integrity and a genuine concern for his clients -- I strongly recommend Tom for your organization if you are looking for ways to inspire and motivate your staff to reach to the next level.”…Tim Smith

Contact Details

941.650.9027

KES Group LLC
P.O. Box 2025
Clayton, GA 30525

tom@kesgroupllc.com